Anyone that wants to start a new journey has to go through a change to grow. Â At one point in your life, you may have been impulsive, lazy, selfish ungrateful, rude, or toxic. Even if you did not have these issues, I’m sure at one point in your life you’ve carried bad habits and personality traits. There is not one person in this world that is born with a perfect personality. Being able to reform into a new and improved person is a great feeling because trust me the journey is far from easy. You are going to make mistakes along the way, but you have to make sure you surround yourself around people that support your journey. When you have people around you that are supportive of your journey it makes it easier for you to stay on the right track.
Don’t get me wrong lack of support does not give you a pass to go back to your old ways. However, it may require you to work a little harder to accomplish your goals. In the end, if you really want to grow, you will have to take the steps necessary to do so.
Ways to tell if you have supportive people around you.
People that are supportive of your journey will encourage you to make changes, and they will keep you away from things that will hinder your growth. Supportive people will acknowledge and compliment your progress.  A supportive person will give you constructive criticism when they see you engage in behaviors from your past. They will not knock you down or make you feel bad when you make a mistake. Someone that supports you will try to provide you with positive solutions to your problems. They have faith that you will utilize your past mistakes as a resource to do better.
When you have unsupportive people around you.
A person that is unsupportive of your growth will continuously remind you of your past. In most cases, people get used to all the things that you use to do that they expect you always to be that way. As a result, they will treat you as if you still behave that way. Unsupportive people will cause you to second guess yourself. They will make you believe that you haven’t changed. Keeping those kinds of people around will cause you to feel discouraged. If you have to keep walking on eggshells with a person, or if you think as they will always see you for the person you use to be, then you need to let them go. Do not allow people to put you in a box.  Everyone deserves a clean slate to prove themselves.
Why people have a hard time accepting your change.
 A lot of people have a hard time adjusting to change.  When a person sees their loved ones making changes, they may have a hard time accepting it. With this in mind, your loved ones may only feel comfortable around you if they hold on to the things that they know about you from the past. Sometimes it’s not about your lack of growth. Some people have a hard time seeing your growth because they haven’t grown. Your loved ones may be afraid that your growth may jeopardize y’all relationship. As a result, they may try to hold you back.
Signs that people around you are secretly unsupportive.
Some people will say that they are happy for you, but they will try to get in the way of your growth. Most of the time they do not realize that they are doing this. They will tell you how proud they are of you, but in the same breathe they try to guilt trip you for changing. For example, let’s just say you decide to cut back from going out with your friends every weekend so you can move out. Your friends are aware of how important it is for you to move out on your own. However, when you stop coming around, they try to make you feel bad. They will try to do things to get you to go back to your old ways such as manipulation.
Manipulation
They are well aware that going out can get in the way of you reaching your goals but they will try to convince you to do it anyway. A manipulator will use the love you have for them against you. A manipulative friend will say things like ” if you love me or care about our relationship, then you would make time for me”. Your friends may even threaten you and tell you that ” if you do come out with us then I will not talk to you anymore”. Sometimes if you really care about a person, it can be easy to fall into those kinds of traps. However, you’ll realize that someone that truly cares about your growth will not try to take advantage of you nor will they make you feel like your goals are unimportant.
I realized.
Though my journey I’ve learned that people see what they want to see. I’ve been in situations where I felt like I was unable to express without someone pointing out my flaws. Even when I had positive energy people took it negatively. I couldn’t talk to anyone without being offensive. I couldn’t escape the labels. At one point in time, I was afraid to express myself. I realized that I only had these issues when I was around certain people. if you can relate to this then, you should check this article out. How To Deal When People Don’t Support Your Growth This article also provides a lot of insight on how to cope with people who do not support your journey.Â
It was time for a new journey.
I got tired of feeling this way. For this reason, I stepped outside my comfort zone and I begin to express myself to strangers. I did this to see if I was the problem. I was able to relate and connect with so many people. It made it so easy for me to let go of the people that kept me boxed in. It feels good to be free and let my guard down. There are people out there that ability to see me for who I am now, and I gravitate more towards those people. I learned not to give in to the manipulation anymore. I put myself first, and I demand people to respect my journey. Those who recognize it will be apart of my life and for those who don’t you will be missed.
With that being said. If you cannot see me for who I am now, then you will not see me at all.
