Forgive You- A Unsent Letter To My Ex.

I know we never got the chance to patch things up. Despite how bad our relationship was I want to let you know that I forgive you. Although our relationship ended badly I want to thank you for everything. To be honest I’m still suffering from some of the pain that transpired in our relationship. I don’t know when the pain or will go away but I’m getting through it.  Even though I lost so much when the relationship ended I can’t blame you or hate you anymore

I had to find it in myself to forgive you.

Our situation helped me grow. I forgive you because I grew in ways that I never thought I could.  I learned so much about myself and realtionships. Our relationship broke me but it made me better. I know better now and I’m sure you do too.  Despite all the bad things that happened between us I still do not wish anything bad on you.

When I realized I forgave you.

I also realized that I love you for what you gave and took from me. You took away my self-confidence, self-love, and identity. For the longest, I hated you for it. But I also gave you the power to do so. If I didn’t lose those parts of myself I would have never knew how important it is to have these things in the first place. I realized that loving you before loving myself was my fault. 

We both had a lot of growing to do.

Both of us had anger issues, communication issues, and trust issues. Our issues made our relationship toxic. We had good days but we had more bad than good. The two of us spent a lot of time arguing and fighting. When we weren’t arguing and fighting we were accusing each other of lying and cheating. This showed me everything a relationship shouldn’t be. Realtionships are not supposed to take so much out of you.  We protected each other sometimes. We cried to each other and shared secrets. But the spiteful things that we did to one another always stood out more. Our situation taught me the aspects that are needed to run a healthy relationship.

I learned.

This also taught me that I have to be better with my communication skills.  I  had to learn that it is wrong to get disrespectful or physical. It also let me know that I shouldn’t be with someone who gets a thrill out of provoking me. Even though you provoked me , I should have kept my composure instead of seeking revenge. Our bad habits made me realize what kind of boyfriend I deserve and the kind of girlfriend I should be.

 My powers as a woman.

The biggest lesson of all was learning my worth, powers and, my purpose as a woman. I am not fully where I want to be. But as I go on this journey to find myself, I am able to recreate myself after being torn apart. I have the power to help other women do the same. There are so many women out there that are in these kinds of relationships and they are too insecure or too broken to leave. However, I am lucky that I was able to walk away. I am able to provide women with the courage that they need to leave their toxic realtionships.

I forgive you because.

If I never went through this,  I would have never been able to be as powerful as I am today. So despite my trust issues, my anxieties and my fears of being in a relationship. I still thank you and forgive you because you gave me lessons to pass down to other women.

Now don’t get me wrong I can’t say it was easy because it wasn’t. It took me a while to get to this point but I believe everyone should forgive their ex. If you are unsure how then here’s something that may be able to help you. The Formula for Forgiving Your Terrible Ex This article provides insightful information that will help you forgive your ex and move on.

 

 

I am stronger than ever, and I will never forget my crown.