After a break up you have a million questions that run through your head. Naturally, people always think that the only way they can move on from a breakup is if those questions are answered. Some people get the opportunity to sit down with their ex, and they believe that it helped them move forward. A lot of people think that is more difficult to move on without closure. So the question is, do you need to gain closure from your ex to move on from the relationship . ?
Or is it better to leave it alone?
Think About the dynamic of your relationship.
It all depends on the situation at hand whether you can receive closure from a past relationship. If you were in a relationship that had a communication issue, then 9/10 it will be pointless to talk about things out with your ex. I mean sometimes people change and grow so it’s a slight chance that you can actually get somewhere. But if you two couldn’t communicate then, it may still be that way now. Also if you were in a situation where you felt that your partner was dishonest with you then, discussing things with them may seem pointless because you probably feel as though they everything they say is bullshit. This may prove to you why your relationship didn’t work out in the first place.
The reason why people want closure.
The whole point of closure is to ensure that you can discuss things and let go of any negative feelings you may have for one another. Although you and your ex may not be right for each other, you can learn to be civil around each other. Engaging in this kind of conversation helps you take things for what it is. This will also help you move forward so that way it won’t affect the relationships you have in the future.
How closure can help you.
Sometimes people spend a lot of time thinking about where they went wrong in their relationships. People that have trouble letting go of their failed realtionships will end up carrying those same issues to their next relationship. It is essential to let go off past realtionships because people who don’t end up feeling helpless or having trust issues. Sometimes having a talk with your ex is good because it can help you see where you were wrong and what you did that caused the relationship to end. Having this talk can help you learn from your mistakes and improve. Not only can this help you grow in your next relationship, But it can help you educate yourself.
Sometimes it is hard for a person to actually see their flaws until someone points it out to them. Everyone wants to know why their partner didn’t want to be with them or what they could’ve done to fix it.
Do not seek closure if.
Make sure you do not try to seek closure if you still have feelings for your partner. If you decide to find closure when you’re not ready to close the door, you will only cause yourself to be hurt. Do not try to seek closure when the breakup is fresh. Of course, during the breakup, you are going to have a lot of things running through your head, but during that time you need to give yourself space. Give yourself time to digest the situation. If your emotions are everywhere, you will be too angry or too upset to conduct this kind of conversation. Wait until your feelings are under control so you can actually hold a healthy discussion.
But sometimes this conversation can be too painful to have. Sometimes a person that loves you can be afraid to answer those question because they don’t want to hurt your feelings. In this case, people have to learn how to move on, without it. Although it is harder to do so, it is possible to achieve. It’s harder because you have to find the answers you want all by yourself. You have to take the time to self-reflect to improve your bad habits. It is hard not to be too hard on yourself. Do not make the blame for everything. Be responsible for your part. Find it in yourself to let go even if closure is not an option.
Always remember that everything happens for a reason and there’s always something out there better for you.