How many times have you allowed yourself to suffer? how badly did you let things get for you to decide that you will not allow yourself to suffer anymore? Think about the number of times you called your loved ones to complain about your situation. too often we will complain day in and day out about our circumstances, but we will allow ourselves to stay stuck in those circumstances. we tell others and ourselves that we are going to change it. But we don’t. We say “today is the last day”, but then today turns into tomorrow. Tomorrow turns into next week. before you know it months have gone by and you are still in the same position.
Why do people suffer?
But the question is why? why do people allow themselves to suffer? why are people so afraid to let go and walk away from things that do not make them happy? The sad truth is that most people believe that are destined to suffer. Most people do not live to be happy, instead, they live to survive. because most of the time thats all we know. Especially minorities that grew up in urban communities.
People learn to suffer.
People that grow up in a tough environment learn how to tolerate trauma and pain. Even as a child you are forced to be strong. You will not be able to make it out alive if you are weak. Even when you are put in situations that make you want to break down you cant. You learn to be okay even when you’re not. it’s rear that you can express yourself because the moment you do it will be seen as a sign of weakness.
Suffer to succeed.
As a minority, you learn to do whatever it takes to get things done. Emotions are the least of your worries. It doesn’t matter if you like your situation or not, you better learn to like it because you do not have a choice. Happiness is rarely a thought because happiness does not pay the bills. Hard work is the key to survive, so you better give your all. if you try back down or find an easier route, then you are weak.
I must admit..
Don’t get me wrong this kind of pressure can help people become successful. Its always good to have tough skin. People with tough skin will stand out from the rest when obstacles arise. When others give up, you keep going. However, I believe that drive and effort should apply to the things that you enjoy instead of the things that give you security. The truth of the matter is security is not always a good thing.
Sometimes security is what keeps us stuck.
What about working hard to carry out the things you are set out to do? What about your purpose? Why is there so much emphasizes to survive instead of being taught how to live? when are you going to make a change and decide you are no longer willing to suffer? To live a happy life you have to live. Don’t settle to get by.
Fear of weakness.
There are people out there that dread going to work every day. Not to mention the number of people that dread going home to their spouse every night. There are so many people unhappy with their life. But the question is how many people actually do something about it? How long are you going to bust your ass at a job that doesn’t pay enough? when are you going to get the recognition and the compensation that you deserve? how long are you going to lay next to someone you cannot stand? when do you plan to leave your shitty relationship?
Why do you continue to settle for a basic ass lifestyle? when will you try to live the life you desire to live?
The unknown.
Let me guess you are too afraid to see the outcome. if fear of the unknown is an issue you struggle with, then read this article 7 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of the Unknown And Get More Out of Life. The article has insight that will help you overcome those issues. in order to grow, you have to make changes.
You can have all the excuses in the world for your shitty circumstances. But what is that going to do for you ? will you take the time out to make things better? Or do you give up before you even try?
be real with yourself.
Do you take the time out to apply for better jobs? Have you made any attempts to carry out your business plans? How many times do you plan to pressure your spouse to do better? Why do you think explaining yourself a million times will make them change their ways? how much of yourself are you willing to lose until you walk away? Why do you think you deserve the finer things in life when you are content with bare minimum? How do you plan to buy a house if you spend your money going out every weekend?
strength means to let go.
Don’t think for one second that you are stronger if you keep yourself in an unpleasant situation. You are not a stronger worker. Don’t think you are in a stronger relationship either. You dam sure ain’t stronger because you allow yourself to struggle. Maybe to others, you are weak to let go. In reality, it will make you stronger.
What do you care about more? What else do you plan to do other than complain? if you do not make a move, then you must like to suffer.